What to do if your Ukrainian wife is depressed in a new country

Dear friends,

If you have recently gotten married or you know someone that has tied the knot with a woman that has moved half way across the world from Ukraine or Russia to the United States, then you have most likely seen the affect that it tolls on her.

While you may be lost in the excitement of having found yourself companionship, it is important to keep into consideration the fact that this new Ukrainian/Russian woman of yours is human, just like you are, and expresses a lot of wants and needs that may be surprisingly similar to your own. When beginning to look at solutions to ending her depression, it is necessary to take a look at things from a perspective that you may not be familiar with.

Western men often experience this situation when they’ve married a Ukrainian or Russian woman and start to realize that she is lonely and down on herself. The first thing to realize is that she has just dropped everything she had had previously in order to begin a new life with you. She has no friends, no job to keep her mind occupied, culture shock by living in a country that is foreign to her, and, most importantly, that she is an entire globe away from her family.

One of the solutions that Western men like to come up with on their own is to take her to therapy or attempt to make her feel more at home by taking her to visit a Ukrainian or Russian club. This is not quite the first thing that the husband should be looking into. Taking her to therapy may be a very uncomfortable and unsettling experience for her and taking her to a Ukrainian or Russian club may be more awkward than it’s worth.

The main issue concerning her depression is that there may be a lack of communication on both of your parts. It is essential to ensure that there is a mature level of consideration, compassion, and empathy being displayed to her and that you are willing to discuss things openly with her. Getting to the root of the issue and finding out the exact reasons why she is depressed in the first place is an excellent area to begin.

Even though it may be frustrating at times, the more emotional support that you show her, the better a chance she has of relaxing. If you’re looking for a happy marriage with more than just companionship, you have to show her that you aren’t just a Western man that swept her out of her country–you have to show her that you are a good man, a man that will take care of her for life and a man that now cares deeply about her.

If it has gotten to the point where you are ready to call it quits, take a deep breath and relax. This is going to take patience, but the outcome has a high chance of being worth it. Your Ukrainian wife is under much more pressure and a considerable amount of more stress than the Western man is. There is going to be no “fixing” her and her issues. What has to be taken a good, hard look at is yourself.

Working on yourself is a solution that will not only show her that you’re willing to reconcile and accommodate to her needs (just as she has done to yours), but that you are genuinely concerned for her well being to the point where you’re taking it in your own hands to work on yourself in order to be better for her.

Being completely honest and having a willingness to be open is crucial to the overall development of your relationship and to her mental well being.

No matter how hard things get and no matter if it seems there will be no end in sight, there is happiness to find. Keep that in mind and vow to take care of her regardless of what happens in the future.

Give expensive gifts or not: that is the question?

Dear friends,

It is a well-known fact that Ukrainian and Russian ladies love receiving gifts. For us Ukrainian women, a gift from a beloved man is always precious but not because of the money. In the Ukrainian dating culture, a gift is not just a gift. First of all, a gift is a sign of attention and care and also an expression of your love and admiration.

In today’s article, we are not talking about the gifts as evidence of love and attention, but about (very) expensive gifts, namely: whether Western men MUST buy their Ukrainian women very expensive gifts (mink coats, diamond jewelry, cars, etc.) or not. I have received some messages from my readers with the question if this is usual in Ukraine to buy gifts from $2,000. The reason for this question is the requirement of some Ukrainian women to buy them such an expensive gift because, according to their words, all Ukrainian men buy their favorite woman VERY expensive gifts for certain holidays and buying expensive gifts for them proves the man’s total love for them.

So, guys, buy expensive gifts or not: that is the question?

First, I would like to say that it is not usual that a Ukrainian or Russian woman demands such expensive gifts. It has often been said that the way to a woman’s heart is with the least expected gift at the least expected time. In the case of Russian and Ukrainian women, however, that’s only half of the truth. It is true that in the Russian and Ukrainian cultures, women expect gifts from men they are dating, not out of greed but as symbols of their amorous intent.

It’s the thought that counts, not the money

As is the case with most women, Russian and Ukrainian women love to receive gifts from the men who date them. And just as is the case for most women, it’s not the amount of money that is spent, it’s the symbolism of love and care that matters most.

A Ukrainian woman for marriage who presses her (Western) man for excessively expensive gifts should be avoided. And although it is true that Russian and Ukrainian men buy the ladies they date gifts, they are rarely expensive. After all, as it is in most cultures, it’s the thought that counts, not the money.

Your gifts should be elegant

As is the case with most cultures, the amount spent on a gift can be construed that it reflects the level of commitment intended by the giver. Unfortunately, this might be far from the real intent and instead scare off both parties if they are not on the same emotional wavelength. It’s for this reason that gifts should not include expensive jewelry or other big ticket items. Try to keep your gifts small and inexpensive, but not cheap and trashy.

A gift should also not be considered an attempt to show resources that aren’t there, luring a woman into a relationship for the money. In my opinion, it is equally true that a woman who is either too demanding of money to be spent on her or expectant of gifts is probably spoiled and will no doubt continue to be so if the relationship is allowed to continue.

Talk openly with your Ukrainian woman on this topic

In order to assure a happy and continued Ukrainian-Western relationship, both parties should spell out what they expect from the other in order to avoid a clash over misunderstandings. If either party is marriage-minded and the other is not, it can be virtually assured that the relationship is doomed before it ever got started.

I would advise you to talk with the woman on this issue, about your financial situation and explain her that you love her but you are not able to buy expensive gifts. As I said about, it is the thought and attention that count, not the money. If she does not want to understand you, you should think about if this woman is suitable for you.

In my opinion, you should be wary of being the only one in the relationship buying gifts. Your Ukrainian lady should buy gifts for you occasionally, too – IF she’s really into you. You should also watch out for gestures and emotions that indicate your Ukrainian bride is a little TOO into getting (expensive) gifts. My advice is that you should run to the nearest exit if your woman drops any overt hints about wanting material gratification.

In conclusion, I want to say that by nature the Russian and Ukrainian men are generous and love to buy gifts to their favorite women. However, not every man in Ukraine and Russia can buy a $200-300 gift (this is a high price for a gift!). So, if a Ukrainian woman tells you that every Ukrainian man buys his beloved woman mink coats and diamonds, do not believe her. Only a few men in Ukraine have enough money for these gifts (read the interview with Irina about her experience with Ukrainian men). As for me, it is obvious that the woman just wants to use you if she tells you this.

Three other tips to find out if your Ukrainian woman is real

Dear friends,

I wrote an article already how to verify the true identity of a Ukrainian bride on a dating site (to read the article please click here) as well as how to identify and avoid Ukrainian pro-paters (to read the article please click here). And I created a Ukrainian dating guide on online scam (click here). But almost every week, I get mails from my readers who are wondering how to find out if the woman is real or not. This is understandable because you should always be cautious while using International online dating and matchmaking services.

There are a few distinct signs and tips that you should always look for when communicating with someone you think you may want to start a real relationship with. In my opinion, there are many ways to tell if your Ukrainian or Russian woman for marriage is real or if she is a scam.

You can never be too careful as this is the “digital age” (note: remember that being overcautious may lead your Ukrainian dating adventure to the disaster – to read more click here). Once you’ve followed these few tips, you will know if the feelings are true or if just a scammer out for some quick cash.

Tip #1: Call me, call!

The first tip you should always look for when calling your Ukrainian or Russian woman for the first time, is listen to the sound of your voice. In my opinion, her voice should sound excited, and you may be able to hear a little nervousness as well (I am sure that you are also very nervous if you call a woman from Ukraine for the first time). If she sounds an excited and slightly nervous, then that is a great indicator that she’s real and that’s she’s very interested in you as well.

She should sound nervous because she may know exactly how to respond as she’s just so excited to finally hear your speaking voice for the first time. And the first time you call someone it can be a little nerve-racking. But if you call and she sounds monotone and very nonchalant, that could be a red flag for you to note. Some people don’t know that their feelings can simply be expressed in their voice.

Tip #2: Use Skype and study the woman’s body language

The second thing you should take note of is how she acts when you Skype call her. By physically seeing her, you will be able to pick up on your emotions and even actions as well. If you call and she’s very calm and seemingly not connected then that should definitely be a red flag.

The first time you video chat with someone they should be a little nervous, and maybe even overwhelmed with excitement the first few times you all decide to video chat. I believe that it should be a pleasant and overall happy experience if the Ukraine woman is sincerely interested in your personality.

Tip #3: Use interpreters

The final tip is when you can you should use interpreters, they will make this overall situation go a lot smoother. This will help remove any language barriers that may arise. And the interpreters will also be able to find out if the Ukrainian or Russian woman is genuine and real with what she is speaking. You can use the interpreters when you are on the phone with your Ukrainian or Russian woman and even when you go visit her as well. It will greatly help you out in the long run and before you become too emotionally invest as well.

Important: I recommend you to find a neutral interpreter (e.g. translation office in your city) because the International dating agency’s interpreter would not help you to find out if the woman is real or not. They do not want to lose a customer who pays for their services!!!

I am sure, once you have followed those few simple tips, you will then know if your Ukrainian or Russian woman is real or just a scammer. This will greatly help you out in the long run as well. Another tip that you should follow is always be careful and cautious. But other than that, have fun and fall in love with a Ukrainian lady today.

Advice how to navigate your first date with a Ukrainian woman

Dear friends,

You (like many Western men) are familiar with these challenges, namely: communicating with a Ukrainian woman online is fine and phone calls with her are just wonderful. People want to meet each other in person for the first time. Perfect!

However, after this decision most men ask themselves how the first date with the Ukrainian woman should be navigated. As you know, the first date can be a disaster if you do it wrong. Today, we try to answer the following questions: What to do? Who will pay for the first date? How much should you pay at the first day? Preparing for a first date with a Ukrainian lady can be quite nerve-wracking, even for the most mature of individuals. So I am sure that my advice may be very helpful for you.

I get many mails from my readers who share their experience about their dating in Ukraine. Some of them had to spend more than $300 on the first date because Ukrainian ladies led them to the most expensive restaurants and wanted to go on a private taxi home. So the question is this is normal or not? Do Ukrainian men do the same or not? My answer is NO, this is not normal. No, Ukrainian men do not spend usually $300 at the first date.

Before I give you some advice how to navigate the first date with a Ukrainian lady, I would like to describe you the average scenario of a date in Ukraine. The fact is that only a few men in Ukraine earn more than $1,500 per month, and that means that only a few men in Ukraine are able to invite a girl to an expensive restaurant and spend $300 for the meal and taxi.

Generally, the daters go to a middle-class (not expensive, but not very cheap) cafe for coffee and something to eat. In this case, we’re talking about people who earn an average salary per month ($300-500). Usually, Ukrainian men spend max. 200 hryvna (about $20) for the evening.

What about the dates with Western men? What do Ukrainian women expect from Western men at the first meeting? And how to prepare for the first date? My first advice is that you must NOT spend a lot of money at the first date ($150-300 are too much). A bouquet of beautiful flowers is a really MUST-HAVE at the first meeting with Ukrainian and Russian ladies. A medium bouquet costs about 100-150 hryvna (about $10-15), and I think that it is an economical sign of attention for a beautiful girl.

The second advice is that you should be ready to pay for the dinner. Ukrainian and Russian ladies do accept the invitation as an acknowledgment and do not offer to pay e.g. for meals at restaurants in return. It is a special feature of our mentality which is rather traditional. If you are looking for a Ukrainian wife, you should know that (you find more information on this issue in my article “Should Western men always pay for Ukrainian & Russian ladies?”).

But you can prepare for that and impress your girl by finding a restaurant for dinner. You can ask for nice restaurants at the hotel reception desk where you live during your trip in Ukraine. Besides, you can use Internet (I am sure there are a plenty of reviews of other men who describe different restaurants, cafes or clubs during their trips in Ukraine). A dinner at a middle-class restaurant/café for two persons may cost 300-500 hryvna (about $30-50).

If your date tells you about (very) expensive restaurants like “Veljur” or “Inter-Continental” in Kiev, you must be aware to pay more than $1000 per dinner. So it is recommended to make an online research and learn the names of expensive restaurants in the city where the first date will take place. Thus, your date will not become a big financial disaster for you.

As you see, an average date with a Ukrainian woman will cost you about $70 (flowers and dinner). If you want to be a REALLY BIG gentleman, you can offer your woman to pay for a taxi. Usually, it costs about 100 hryvna ($10), not $50-100.

How to react if a Ukrainian woman wants to clearly make you bankrupt? If the woman obviously shows you that she is displeased by your choice of the restaurant and after dinner she can no longer go home by public transport and can imagine going home only on a private taxi which costs 4 times more expensive than the official one. Well, in my opinion, this is more than evident that this kind of woman you are dating is more interested in your wallet than in you.

Developing a communication and relationship with this woman makes no sense (or do you guess that I am wrong?). I am sure that these professional pro-daters and gold diggers in Ukraine and Russia will use your wallet until you become suspicious and stop spending your money for her needs.

Guys, believe me Ukrainian and Russian gold diggers know better than to ask you to fund their expensive tastes, at least in the beginning; they’ll tap into your desire to help them afford the things they need (food, accommodation, transportation). If you want to pay about $200-300 per date with the Ukrainian woman in the hope that she would later change her desires and will understand your financial opportunities, you are really foolish enough if you think so (in my hard opinion). So do not waste your time and money and look only for normal women in Ukraine! Believe me you will find them!

Good luck in Ukraine!

Seven reasons why Western men want to meet Ukrainian ladies

Dear friends,

After having read various Russian and Ukrainian women forum threads, I collected the most common reasons why Western men want to find a Ukrainian woman for life. As you know, more and more men from Western parts of the world are interested in meeting women from Russia and Ukraine. Some people might attribute this to increasing distaste for the “dating scene” or other social factors related to meeting members of the opposite sex. I don’t think that is the case.

Instead of chalking this state of affairs up to negative social situations, I prefer to think of this phenomenon as a compliment to Ukrainian culture. There are quite a few things about Ukrainian culture that make meeting a Ukrainian woman appealing to men from the West.

Here are the most common reasons why Western men dream to find a woman from Ukraine :

Reason #1. Traditional Family Values

Western men appear to value family values more and more. While it would be rude to make generalizations about the women that Western men typically encounter, it can be said that women from other cultures tend to possess a different perspective on the role of the family.

Reason #2. Traditional Culture

There is stability and confidence in a stable cultural environment at home. A stable culture at home often results in a stable, happy family. With divorce rates hovering around fifty percent, is it any wonder that men would seek out partners who value the stability and consistency that a stable culture provides?

Reason #3. Respect of a Good Education

Western culture values celebrity status quite heavily. While this is good for entertainment purposes, it is a shaky foundation upon which to build a family. Education and the opportunities that education represents are vital to the long term success of a person and their family. Obviously, a man who values that belief in their own life would value it in a partner.

Reason #4. Relationship Goals

When a man is looking to establish a long term relationship, they often have to meet quite a few people before they find someone with a similar desire. It can be exhausting to meet a woman and become interested in her as a person, only to find that she is not interested in establishing a deep relationship. Men would obviously gravitate towards people with similar relationship goals.

Reason #5. Honesty

Everyone appreciates knowing where they stand with everyone. Trust is an important part of any relationship and is absolutely required. Men would obviously want to find people who value trust in a relationship, and who embody that trust in their actions and words.

Reason #6. Expressing Their Feelings

Men are not typically regarded as adept at expressing their thoughts and feelings. However, that does not mean that men don’t value that trait in a partner. Women who are comfortable with their feelings and able to express them effectively make great relationship partners.

Reason #7. Femininity and Sweetness

There is nothing more captivating than a beautiful woman. A woman who can steal your heart with a glance, but also connect with you on an emotional level is rare indeed. However, when a man finds a woman like this, he rarely lets her go.

According to most Western men looking for a match from abroad, us Ukrainian ladies embody all of these traits.

My question to you, dear Ukrainian Dating Blog readers: why do you want to meet Ukrainian ladies for marriage? What are your reasons for that?

I would be happy to read your answers and thoughts

Risk Factors for Problems in a Ukrainian-Western Relationship

Dear friends,

There are indeed some problems that can arise between Ukrainian and Western partners in a cross-cultural relationship and marriage. From my personal experience with an intercultural relationship, I know that there are some big risk factors for problems in a Ukrainian-Western relationship. Today, we discuss some of the most important risk factors in order to avoid these problems in your relationship with a Ukrainian/Russian woman.

One thing that Western men should do before getting online to find a Ukrainian woman for marriage is to take the time to study their culture first. Knowing what to expect can save a lot of headaches and problems. It takes time to adjust to different cultures and mindsets. It is well worth your time to explore the cultural differences between diving in.

One of the most common is that Ukrainian and Russian women always expect to be invited. They also expect the man to pay for the entire date. Western men today are far more liberated to that and some of them find these Ukrainian values a bit offensive. Dating in America is much different from overseas. American women are much more independent and are used to paying their own way. They have no problem splitting the bill for their dates and some will pay for the whole date themselves.

The communication between a Ukrainian woman and a Western man can pose another problem. People in America grow up watching arguments and disagreements being fought in a totally different way than their eastern counterparts. The value systems differ quite a bit in specific areas. This is true personally as well as socially.

Religious differences are another type of the risk factors for problems in a Ukrainian
-Western relationship. Not sharing the same beliefs can really put a broad gap between you and your potential mate. It takes two very understanding people to ever bridge this gap.

You might run into someone who has children from a previous marriage. Or else you could be the one with the kids. Whichever way it is, this too can cause problems. Getting to know the kids and loving them takes time for the partner who is meeting them now for the first time.

One of the all-time causes of divorce and separations as well as arguments are finances. Financial problems can always cause a riff between a couple who is trying to get settled and start a new life together.

Another risk factor for problems in a Ukrainian-Western relationship is when the couple tries to get together too soon and have not really formed a deep commitment to one another. This makes it much easier to let go whenever things get tough and discouraging. A deep commitment is what causes relationships to last and stay the course.

Even the beliefs about what a marriage should be and what it should be like can be quite different when you marry across ponds. Western men and Ukrainian women have been raised quite differently. This creates a lot of spaces for needing compromise and understanding. The attitudes toward various things are just very far apart. It takes working together to form the kind of bond that is going to last.

A common factor for ending up in a divorce that is common to both situations, whether it is American couples, or Ukrainian couples, or a mixture, is marrying at too young of an age. So many times young people feel like they are so in love that nothing will ever separate them. Then as time passes and they become wiser their whole attitude changes concerning this belief.

If you are considering looking for a partner from another country, then it is a wise idea to familiarize yourself with their culture and make sure it is what you want and what you can live with. As you can see, there are plenty of risk factors for problems in a Ukrainian-Western relationship. Your woman from Ukraine and you should work hard on your relatioship. But the result is more than great!… Believe me – I know that from my personal intercultural dating experience.  This work is worth it!

Guys, Do you Really Want Only „One Thing“ from Ukrainian Women?

Dear friends,

I’ll start my new blogpost by bringing you an example of a bad message a Western man can write to his Ukrainian girl:

„I sent you some photos and a letter but I have not heard back from you. I would also love to chat with you here or on another messenger. I love your beautiful mind, your sexuality and you long lovely legs.
Kisses…“

Almost every day I read through various forum posts in which Russian and Ukrainian women exchange their experiences in relationships with Western men. I also want to know what problems single women from Russia and Ukraine have with the Western culture, traditions, mentality as well as intercultural relationships.

I’ve recently come across an interesting discussion of the women who wonder, whether it’s just a sexual relationship with a beautiful Ukrainian or Russian woman that Western men are looking for.

The woman confessed that many Western men she’d met through International dating sites asked her if she could send them her nude pictures. Speaking from my dating experience, I, too, can say that a few gentlemen asked me to send them “sexy pictures” of myself. I must say honestly, these requests did not make me happy. Moreover, I was deeply offended by that and I felt like a piece of meat.

I’ve already written that Ukrainian and Russian women on the Internet have a personality and character. They have feelings and emotions. Therefore, you have to respect them. It means that you, dear gentlemen, must have patience and find time to get to know them better. The important step to intimacy will take place someday and this should be something special to the both of you.

Many women say that they ignore such requests and want no contact with such men. And believe me, Ukrainian and Russian women for marriage do not want to see any naked pictures of youselves.

My advice is act like gentlemen and do not ask for nude pictures if you dream about a serious relationship with a Ukrainian lady. I know that not everyone makes such a thing but there are still those men who think that such a request is something normal to do. No, no, no! My second piece of advice regarding the Ukrainian dating is not to write about sexuality of women, your erotic fantasies and dreams. Believe me, this does not work!!!

If you do not know what you should write about, just ask me. I’ll give you tips on how to write and communicate with Ukrainian and Russian ladies the right way.

Do All Ukraine Women Only Use Western Men?

Dear friends,

Today I want to tell a story. A few days ago, I found a very hot discussion at Russian-Women-Forum.com (see here: http://www.russian-women-forum.com/viewforum/FIRST -CONTACT/DONT-DO-IT.html). What is this discussion about? Well, one Western man claims that Russian and Ukrainian women want only to use Western men and do not look for a real love abroad.

BrentBurnedInCA says:

“DONT DO IT!

I married a “model quality” woman named Irina. We were married for 7 years, with one child. I sponsored her parents for permanent resident visas. The very day that she received word from her father that they received their visas, she started cheating on me. We knew six other Russian woman / American man couples. Only one of them is still married, and she is threatening divorce. The girls all know how generous divorce settlements are, and they plan on them. They want at least one kid to assure child support payments.

Bottom line: they are from a land where morality doesn’t exist. Cheating on a man is just no big deal to them. Lying is OK for them, but bad for everyone else. Double standards and refusal to accept responsibility like you have never seen. It is all about exchanging sex for a better life – nothing more.

Buyer beware! ”

I disagree. Thats why I would like to tell you the story that shows that Ukraine women as well as Western men have different goals in Ukrainian online dating.

Several years ago my dear friend Tom set off on a Ukrainian adventure tour, the purpose of which was to meet cultured, young Ukraine women for marriage. During the course of his “adventure” he met and took am interest in a 25 year old divorcee, Olga. I neglected to mention that Tom was 65 at the time.

Tom and Olga paired off and became a couple for the three remaining weeks of Tom’s visit to Ukraine. Paired off is not an accurate description. Olga insisted that her friend Katrina accompany them on all outings and serve as an interpreter and a chaperone of sorts. She was also an attractive young woman. All three parties got along famously, and an enjoyable time was had by all.

Before Tom left for the states, Olga took him to meet her parents, both of whom were significantly younger than he. Olga told him of the hardships her parents faced. Tom responded sympathetically by buying her parents an expensive washer and dryer along with a new TV and a month’s supply of groceries. Once home, he sent her father a number of expensive suits he hadn’t worn since his retirement.

Tom and Olga spent considerable time emailing one another on the laptop he gave her. The relationship bloomed over the Internet. Soon the couple was making plans to meet again for a hopefully romantic holiday in St. Petersburg. Tom made arrangements at the swankiest hotel in the city and sent Olga money for her trip. When they met in, a surprise awaited him.

Katrina had joined the party and her and Olga were sharing a room. Tom’s idea of a comfortable love nest for two was shattered. Irregardless, the three-some enjoyed their days in St. Petersburg. Tom bought expensive outfits for both girls and treated them to a great time. Upon departure, Olga announced that she truly was not interested in pursuing the relation ship any further.

Having spent several thousand dollars on her, and several more for the trip Tom returned home with a deflated ego. Several weeks later he got an email from Katrina, the interpreter who expressed interest in beginning a new relationship. Bill took her up on it. I have lost track of how many trips abroad he has taken to be with Katrina, but there have been several over the past five years. Tom is now 71. He enjoys meeting his paramour once or twice a year in exotic places like Paris, Istanbul and Vienna. He gets great satisfaction from strolls on the boulevards in romantic places with a 30 year old beauty on his arm, drawing stares from envious male on- lookers and scornful females. That is his reward. The trips and gifts are hers.

Tom’s goal, he tells me, never was to seek out Ukraine women for marriage, only for an exotic, no strings attached relationship. Hers was the exitement of travel and adventure with a safe, wealthy American. Who is the user? Who is being used? Looks like a draw to me.

The best places in Ukraine to meet Ukrainian women for marriage

Dear Gentlemen,

many of my readers ask me where in Ukraine they can find the right Ukrainian woman for life without any help of dating and marriage agencies (as you know, they can be so expensive!!!). Is that even possible? Today, I try to find an answer to this hot and maybe a little bit complicated question…

I’ve been thinking and looking for the suitable locations and cities in Ukraine where you can find a Ukrainian woman for marriage. Are streets, bars, clubs, cafes, trade centers or beach the best places to meet your dream woman from Ukraine?

In my opinion, when looking for the best places in Kiev to meet Ukrainian women for marriage, it is unlikely that the type of girl a guy from the West is going to want to marry will be hanging out in a bar or club. It’s true there are some lovely Ukrainian girls to get to know but like everywhere else there are also opportunists. The opportunist will want a chance to live and work outside of her country and chances are as soon as she has got the paperwork she is looking to get you won’t see her anymore. That is an opportunist.

For the guy who is serious about finding a nice Ukrainian girl they need to go through a screening process. In my opinion, the best way to do this is to contact a marriage agency in Kiev and start making dates. Get to know the girls through online correspondence first, connect on something like Skype and see how the chemistry goes. Always try to imagine how they might adapt to life where you are living.

I must say that many of Ukrainian women love their country and it’s difficult for them to stay away from home forever. But there are always the exceptions. Like everywhere else there are people who have a sense of adventure and want to try living elsewhere, especially North America.

At some point you are going to want to actually meet. If at all possible I would recommend taking more than a month to stay in the Ukraine. This way you can get a better understanding about what the country is like and also take some of the time pressure off yourself. There are going to be cultural differences so by going through the marriage agency you will be able to get some insights from the match makers who understand both cultural perspectives.

The right Ukrainian girl is someone who has decided she does want to go abroad. If she has worked hard at perfecting her English then that means she is serious about getting to know the culture more. It shows that she has a genuine interest in living in an English speaking country and won’t have a communication problem.

The Ukrainian dating dilemma: to pay or not to pay for women from Ukraine?

Dear Friends,

Every Western man who looks for a wife from Ukraine has heard of this intercultural difference, namely: Ukrainian women expect that Western men pay everywhere and for everything. From time to time, I get messages from my readers who ask me why Ukrainian women always expect to be invited by men. The answer is this is the special character feature of our culture and mentality.

It is not a serious problem for some men; however, there is a number of Western men who do not know how to deal with this problem and they just feel used. Of course, I can understand these feelings of Western men because I’m familiar with the Western culture. The dating and relationship process runs very differently here than in Ukraine. And that’s normal because we have very different cultures.

The problem is that Western men who look for a Russian or/and Ukrainian woman for marriage learn too little about the culture, traditions as well as history of the home country of their future wife; therefore, they have some difficulties to understand what exactly Ukrainian women expect from them.

On the other hand, Ukrainian women often mistakenly assume that Western men are similar to their Ukrainian and Russian partners and expect the same things from Western men, which Ukrainian men give them in the relationship.

Here are the two basic and most important Ukrainian dating rules that every Western man has to know:

1)Ukrainian women are VERY DIFFERENT from Western Ladies:

Western women are very different from us when it comes to their dating behavior, namely: they prefer to pay themselves while dating men. American, English or German women are more independent and emancipated than Russian and Ukrainian women. For example, this is very common in Germany that women and men pay separately at restaurants, cinemas or cafes.

Honestly, this intercultural difference was a shock for me when I came to Germany nine years ago. Meanwhile, going Dutch became normal for me but I am not a fan of this type of thing. As for me, the variety in the ways of paying is more pleasant than going Dutch. If I see that my man is ready to pay for me and wants to share with me what he has, it makes me happy and, of course, I want to share my finances with him in this case, too. What I want to say is that we can take turns to pay for things and it doesn’t have to be only him or me, who pays.

2)Ukrainian society is VERY TRADITIONAL:

The Ukrainian and Russian people still live in a traditional society, namely: the man is supposed to be the head of the family and he is the breadwinner. The woman’s role is being a good and caring wife, the mother and keeper of the family hearth.

Therefore, children in Ukraine and Russia are (still) brought up traditionally, too. Ukrainian girls learn from their mothers that men pay for them. On the other hand, they learn also that the family (their husbands and children) is the most important thing in life.

Ukrainian women think men should always pay for them, yes, they take it for granted.  Sometimes, women do not say “thank you” to the man because they think the man pays anyways. That can hurt men because they think women are only after their money, which is not always true.

My tips how to deal with this Ukrainian dating issue:

1)Learn more about the Ukrainian culture, family values and female and male roles in dating and relationships

2)This issue is very delicate. You should talk with the woman about this issue carefully and compare together the differences of Ukrainian and Western dating behavior.

3)If you want to find and date a Ukrainian woman you should be ready to pay for everything (or at least in the beginning while dating). It is a part of our mentality and women want to feel like princesses while being invited by a man. However, I have to say that the Ukrainian society has changed a little bit in the recent years and women have become more independent and emancipated. Going Dutch becomes common for Ukrainian ladies (but very slowly) and they adjust to the new rules of the dating game.

Ukrainian Dating: What The Agencies Will Never Tell You

Dear Friends,

you definitely know that the dating world is a crazy place. With all of the expectations and unsolicited advice from family and friends, men simply don’t know where to start. If you want to take all of the guessing out of dating, you should date Ukrainian woman. Many people think that in order to date a Ukrainian woman, you must go through an agency. Although going through an agency can help you, there are a lot of things that these agencies will not tell you.

Here are some Ukrainian dating tips that the agencies will never tell you.

1) Family Orientation

Ukrainian women are very family oriented and agencies like to play to this aspect. Men dream of finding a woman that will take care of their children, home and cherish the traditions of family. But Ukrainian women are not slaves. They are not going to just give and give without needing attention or things for themselves. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that you are getting a robot. Ukrainian women have their own views and will have needs just like every other woman.

2) Don’t Have Overly Hyped Expectations

Ukrainian women make great wives and great mothers, but there are bad apples in the bunch just like every other ethnicity. Don’t expect every Ukrainian woman that you meet to be a cookie cutter version of your fantasy.

3) You’re Not Alone

There are a lot of men who are vying for Ukrainian women. These women have very strong personalities and will choose their own man if they like him. Just because you take her out for dinner or buy her a piece of jewelry doesn’t mean that she is your woman.

4) Understanding Ukrainian Women

Ukrainian women don’t require some kind of guide for decryption, but you will need to use some common sense when trying to understand their point of views. They are not perfect and neither are you. Try to be understanding of their feelings and how your actions will affect their feelings.

5) Dating Agencies Are Mediums

A dating agency is responsible for getting you a date. They are not responsible for keeping the two of your together. That is your responsibility. Just because you have one date with a Ukrainian woman doesn’t mean that you can take her for granted. You need to work to keep her interested.

6) What Do You Know About This Woman?

Many men fall into the pit of getting hung up on the visual of a wedding and starting a family without actually getting to know the girl. If you don’t know the intricacies of a Ukrainian woman, the relationship is not going to last. Don’t jump into a relationship when you don’t really know the woman.

7) Ukrainian culture

Knowing the culture of a Ukrainian woman will give you the ability to make strides in finding a place in her heart. Do the research needed to understand how her culture will view your actions and what is expected of you to start a relationship.

Tips on How to Date a Ukrainian Lady With Kids

Dear Friends,

Western men who are considering Ukrainian dating might wonder why beautiful single mothers might look for a man abroad:

Part of this concern is due to the fact that many single Ukrainian mothers in their early to mid 30s are stunning women who seem like they should be able to find a husband in their own home town. Understanding the facts about the Ukraine can help clear up some of the confusion about this situation.

As a Ukrainian woman, I know that the competition is strong. Many Ukrainian women are beautiful and many younger women do not yet have any children. This factor makes it challenging for single mothers to remarry.

Ukrainian dating is different from other countries due to the fact that many of the women are stunning and numerous younger women who are not yet mothers are available. Men in the Ukraine are more likely to prefer dating a younger woman who has no children than a single mother. The chances of a single mother in her mid 30s remarrying a man in the Ukraine is very low.

For western men who are considering the option of dating a Ukrainian woman, the chances of having the opportunity to find a young single mother who is available is much higher than finding a younger woman who is not yet a mother.

Many men feel that they look younger than their age and might try getting involved with a younger woman in her 20s. The problem is that western men are likely to have more competition for single women in their 20s from the Ukraine than young single mothers in their early to mid 30s. Young Ukrainian women are often preferred by Ukrainian men, so western men will compete with local men for their affections. This higher competition makes it challenging to start dating.

On the other hand, men who are willing to meet and date a single mother in her 30s are likely to find that the woman is still available and is more willing to consider dating someone from another country. These women are unlikely to marry in their hometown and are more likely to look abroad for companionship.

Taking a chance on dating a Ukrainian single mother can result in a long-lasting relationship. These women are often available and more willing to consider dating western men than younger women who have never married and do not have children.

Why searching for perfect women from Ukraine fails…

Dear Friends,

We all know that the search for perfect women from Ukraine can be very difficult and typically leads to failure. The main why this is the case is because there are no perfect women in the Ukraine. There are no perfect women anywhere. So, any search that involves that kind of mindset is doomed to failure from the very beginning.

There are some things to remember when searching for women from Ukraine:

1) Nobody is perfect, Ukrainian women for marriage are not always…

Not ever woman who is from Ukraine is humble, family-oriented, and flawless. Just like everybody else on the planet, some women are not that pleasant or attractive. Many times, dating agencies are fed a “fantasy woman” who looks great on paper but is not so great in person.

2) Forget the mails like “Hi, how are you? I am fine” – deep questions are important

When you are beginning to talk to a woman from the Ukraine, you cannot just ask her a ton of questions about her life, her background, and everything you want to know in the first few e-mails. The only way you are going to find a deep connection with someone is to slowly get to know them and talk to them normally. Any woman, especially an eastern European woman, is not going to take kindly to being interrogated.

3) Be careful – don’t become a victim of Ukrainian dating scam!

Sometimes, you, as a Western man searching for a wife on a dating site, could actually the victim of a scam. There are agencies that are dishonest in their business practices and steal money from men who are genuinely looking for love. If it seems too good to be true, then it probably is. Be very cautious when choosing the service you use and make sure that they are reputable and “above board.”

Learn more about Ukrainian dating scam:

1. A great example of a Ukrainian dating scam: romantic Miss Margarita is looking for love & passion…

2. Ukraine Online Dating & Scam: Christopher asks – Krystyna answers

3. The Most Important Facts About Ukraine Dating Scams

4. Help! My Ukrainian Girl is Spam!

4) Be patient – Ukrainian dating needs a lot of  time

I know that men can tend to get a little impatient when they are searching. That is understandable, but you cannot e-mail hundreds of girls all at once. E-mail a few and get to know some of them to see if there is a connection there before you move on.

Remember, when you get impatient you are looking for an “ideal” woman or a perfect woman. Because nobody is perfect, this will make the search fruitless. It is much better to be patient and try to get to know somebody first.

When men are searching for love in the Ukraine, they must be certain to keep their wits about them and go slowly. They cannot get to know a woman in one e-mail, and they cannot possibly find a woman by e-mailing hundreds. Exercise some patience and common sense. When you do that, the woman of your dreams will find you.

Interview with James: his experience with Ukrainian dating

Dear friends,

There are two types of Western men in the Ukrainian dating world, namely:

1)The newbie: This type of men only begin their adventure hoping to find the right woman from Ukraine. These men have a lot of questions, little or no experience, and many doubts.

2)The lucky beggar: those men have found their match through a dating site and looking forward to leading a happy life together with their Ukrainian woman.

James, my reader, friend and just a lucky man who has found the most wonderful woman from Ukraine, is telling you, dear readers, about his experience with the Ukrainian online dating and women.

Here is our interview about Ukrainian dating and love:

Anastasia: Hello James! First, I want to thank you for this interview. This is really fantastic – you are a living example for that it is really possible to find a match through a Ukrainian (rather International) dating service.

Here is my first question to you. Why did you want to find a woman from Ukraine, not America? I’m sure there are enough women in the U.S. who can make men happy.

James: Hello Anastasia… (Здравствуйте, Анастасия… (in Russian))

I choose Eastern Women because in America women compete with men. And Eastern European women are fascinating to me.

I am Italian, French and Polish… I find that I am only 2 generation in America and I am drawn to Eastern European Women. It is the culture and customs that I find attraction as well.

Anastasia: As we know, there are tons of different dating sites and matchmaking services out there. Often, you lose the overview, and it is difficult to find the perfect online dating agency. James, how did you choose the right dating service for you?

James: Models seems to be the best in my opinion… I look at other too…..

Anastasia: Cross-cultural differences are still the biggest barrier in a Ukrainian-Western relationship. The Western men give their best to learn more about Ukrainian women, their culture and mentality. Unfortunately, many of them do not always succeed as it turns out to be quite a challenge for them.

James, you have gained lots of experience in dealing with intercultural differences in a relationship with a Ukrainian woman. How exactly did you learn to deal with intercultural differences while communicating with Ukrainian women?

James: I am very close to this as I am on 2nd generation in America as I said. I understand we live with our customs and our families. This must be taken into consideration at all times… to understand the women…

Be considerate of her customs, namely: learn them how to greet, how to be respectful, what is your role in the date, etc. Parents, sisters, all play an important role in her demeanor. She is shaped by her culture and her family values.

Anastasia: Very often, Western men, who look very actively for single Ukrainian women for marriage, meet dozens and sometimes hundreds of ladies through different dating sites. I do not think it is easy to find the perfect lady with whom you can start a happy family. Dear James, how did you find out that Valentina is the perfect match for you?

James: Valentina and I are very special people, Anastasia. This is very hard to answer. This question of how do I know… I knew the first time I talked to her on Skype. We SMS for 4 hours the first time. We did not see each other. We only talked…

You read my story dear. It was magic. Not all people will have this. But, the biggest thing is courage and do not give up. Keep looking – she is out there. I feel this very strongly. When I knew is when she spoke to me with her heart…not her mind….

Anastasia: Thank you a lot for your great answers, James.

The difference between Ukrainian men and Western men: from Ukraine women’s view

Dear friends,

There is a lot of discussion on the Internet about the difference between Russian & Ukrainian women and Western women, but there have been fewer conversations and discussions about a Ukrainian woman’s views about the difference between being with a Ukrainian (and also Russian) man and a Western man.

As we know, the most Western men guess that Ukrainian and Russian men drink too much, do not have the suitable respect for their women. Moreover, it is a known fact that the Ukrainian and Russian men like to have several ladies on the side.

I have my own opinion about Ukrainian and Russian men (I must say honestly it is rather negative). Therefore, I wanted to find out what Ukrainian and Russian women think about their men. I’ve searched on the internet and found some interesting opinions. I wanted to find the anwers to my questions:

- What is the difference between Ukrainian men and Western men?
- What do Ukrainian women miss most about being with a Ukrainian man?
- What do Ukrainian women like most about being with a Western man?
 
Well, I am presenting the two most interesting and detailed opinions about Ukrainian and Russian men (only from a Ukrainian and Russian woman’s point of view :)):

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Source: http://www.russianmeetingplace.com/forums/showthread.php?t=13162

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From my personal experience, I can say that I agree with the insights of Tanja and Elena.  I was five years with a Russian man together. I made some observations, namely: Russian and Ukrainian men are selfish. Their desires are most important in the world. Moreover, a big drinking problem of the Ukrainian and Russian men is there. And yes, it is true that the Ukrainian and Russian men often have at least one mistress.

I would like to say something in defense of Ukrainian and Russian men. Of course, there are really nice Russian men who love and respect their wives and kids.

But Ukrainian man? No thank you! I can imagine to stay only with a Western man together!

Dating Survey: why are Western men looking for a Russian/Ukrainian lady?

Dear Friends,

the moderators of www.russianmeetingplace.com, one of the most famous Russian and Ukrainian dating forums, made a survey among their users. They wanted to know why Western men are looking for a Russian/Ukrainian lady for marriage. There are several important reasons why women from Russia and Ukraine are so popular on the “mail order bride” market. 173 Western men participated in the survey.

Here are the results of the dating survey:

As you see, the “complete package” of beauty and traditional family values plays the most important role for 115 Western men (66.47% of the survey respondents). 65 men (37,57%) believe that Russian and Ukrainian women will be a good and loving wife.

Another common reason why Western men are looking for a Russian & Ukrainian lady is that women from Russia and Ukraine are more family-oriented  and less emancipated than Western women. 36,99% of the respondents think so.

62 Western men (35,84%) are looking for these women because they believe that Ukrainian and Russian ladies are loyal and will not leave the marriage after the first misunderstanding or family dispute. Western men have a big fear of being left or abandoned.

65 men believe that Russian and Ukrainian women have a strong ability to love. The most men like the sexuality and physical beauty of women from Russia and Ukraine.

In conclusion I would like to mention that the most meaningful reason why Western men are looking for a Ukrainian woman through different dating sites is loneliness. Many Western men are very lonely and dream of a happy family. The sad part is that they cannot  find their happiness in their own country. Therefore, they want to find the woman abroad – Ukraine, Russia, Thailand …. They hope these women can give them love, respect, warmth, and loyalty.

I wish you will find your happiness in Ukraine soon!

10 Most Useful Tips on Finding & Dating a Ukrainian Woman

Dear friends,

That is a known fact that every year, hundreds of Ukrainian women walk down the aisle to marry foreign men. Why? I am not sure but Ukrainian women are known to be fun, dedicated and lovely women, right? That is why foreign men pursue them and want to marry them.

I have written already that most foreigners meet Ukrainian women via online dating sites. Often correspondence between the men with the Ukrainian women goes on for weeks or months before they agree to meet for the first time. There is no hard and fast rule on how long should the initial correspondence be before the first meeting. Generally though, this happens after 2 months of chatting, videoconferencing or emailing online.

If you are one of those men who are interested in finding and dating a Ukrainian woman, here are some of the most useful tips you need to know:

Tip #1. Read about Ukrainian women.

Get to know Ukrainian women as much as possible before you start meeting or chatting with them online. Learn about Ukrainian culture, history and way of life. This will give you an idea how a typical lady from Ukraine lives her life. You can gather information by doing searches on search engine. Type the keywords “Ukrainian dating”, “Ukrainian brides”, “Ukrainian ladies” and other similar words. These will pull up much needed ideas and advices on what you should know about Ukrainian women and dating them.

Read about experiences of men who have married Ukrainian women. You will get useful tips from them on how to make the marriage work. You can also get a real life glimpse on marriage between men and Ukrainian women.

Of  course, I would recommend you to read Ukrainian Dating Blog und Ukrainian Dating Stories by Krystyna. Many useful information about Ukrainian online dating, users’  experiences and reviews are guaranteed.

Tip #2. Age differences.

Most Ukrainian women prefer older men. A 10 to 15 year age difference is acceptable. But usually women like men to be just a few years older than them. Compatibility is one of the deciding factors that Ukrainian women use to choose the foreign man that they will marry.

Tip #3. Find a reputable Ukrainian dating agency.

A Ukrainian dating agency can help you communicate with your woman. The agency helps interprets letters and calls. They can also write email in behalf of the woman. They can arrange video chat. They generally facilitate the dating experience between the foreigner and the Ukrainian woman.

Research the agency before subscribing to their services. Ask for referrals from other men. Choose the one that is most recommended.

Tip #4. Gradual acquaintance.

Meeting face to face is a good idea but you should make the woman emotionally ready for the experience. The natural order of things is to meet online via dating sites or dating agencies, correspondence via email, chatting, phone conversations before actual meeting. Later, once you meet in person and decide on marrying her, you need to secure a fiancée visa before she can come to your country and marry you. It is important to assure the woman that you are in for the long haul. Also, that you know the whole process and are willing to go through them no matter how difficult or how long they may take.

Tip #5. Write a great first letter.

Customize your letter according to a woman’s preferences. It will not be a good idea to send the same letter to all the women that you meet online. Writing a personalized letter about yourself, your likes and dislikes, education, work and other pertinent details will be greatly appreciated.

Tip #6. Use chats, emails, instant messengers, videoconferencing.

Use technology to your advantage to get to know the woman well. Videoconferencing will help you verify the woman’s identity. Some unscrupulous people might pretend to be a woman to be able to get money from foreign men. Teach the woman how to use these programs.

Tip #7. Be honest

At the start, you may chat with a number of women. Later, you need to trim down your choices to a few. Be honest to the women. Let them know that you are chatting with other women as well. The woman might not like it too much if you keep this a secret from her.

Tip #8. The place of the first meeting in person

When deciding to meet the woman, there are three options available to you. One is to visit Ukraine. Second, is to ask the woman to fly to your country. And lastly, to meet in a different country. If you live in the US, you can ask the woman to come visit you. Or, if she cannot travel to US and you are traveling to France for a business meeting, for instance, you can arrange to meet her there.

Tip #9. Money matters.

This is one important aspect of meeting and eventually marrying a Ukrainian woman. Be prepared to shell out $7,000 to $10,000. The money will be needed for travel purposes and the filing of fiancée visa. Of course, you also need to spend additional money for the wedding and then the subsequent Adjustment of Status and Green Card. All these steps require payment.

Tip #10. Avoid Ukrainian dating scammers.

Another money aspect that you need to know is how to avoid scammers. The most important thing to remember when dealing with online dating is to never send the woman money. This will discourage women who are only after making money off you. This will help determine if the Ukrainian woman truly loves you and not your material possessions.

Dear Gentlemen, I hope so much that my most useful and simple tips on finding and dating a Ukrainian lady will help you to become happy together with your special woman from Ukraine

The Price of Ukrainian & Russian Online Dating

Dear Friends,

as you know, online dating has become a much more acceptable thing in the modern, technological age where 1 in 3 relationships begin on the Internet. For men in the West that are looking for Ukrainian and Russian women for marriage though, you need to keep in mind what all the costs you’re looking at are.

After all, if you’re serious about finding the woman from Ukraine and Russia that you want to settle down with you’re going to have to take a serious look at your bank account before you decide that this is the road you really want to take.

The first thing you need to know is that websites that help you find Ukrainian and Russian women for marriage aren’t free, or even cheap. All told you can expect your dating site fees to range roughly $500 in financial fees, but that’s not considering the time that you spend searching for the woman of your dreams.

And once you find a woman in the Ukraine or in Russia that you want to meet you should set aside $1,000 for plane tickets and other travel fees. That’s in addition to the $500 for the expenses during your trip once your plane has landed. If the trips go well and you feel that you click, then you can look forward to $300 for starting the K1 Visa process, and there will be another $400 in visa-related fees that you’ll have to pay. And if you get all that way, you will have between $800 and $1,000 in your final expenses for flying your lady to your home.

That sounds like a lot, doesn’t it? Well in my experience there have been men that spent as little as $4,000 in this process, but some other men have spent up to $40,000 in the pursuit of love overseas.

It will all be down to your personal spending habits, how much you’re willing to spend on your Ukrainian and Russian woman, and how savvy you are when it comes to your travel expenses. There are ways to save and to cut down on your expenses, but I can tell you from the perspective of a Ukrainian woman that you don’t want to be cheap because that will set a very poor tone for your future courtship. On the other hand it’s better to wait till you’re sure you have the money to spend, once you’ve made your decision.

On the Internet, I’ve found a few reviews of Western men who have made their experiences with Ukrainian and Russian online dating and know how much all this costs:

What do Ukrainian men say about Ukrainian and Russian women…

Dear friends,

most of the Western men say that Ukrainian and Russian ladies are the most tender, loving, honest, hardworking, and caring women they have ever met. In their opinion, Ukrainian women are the perfect wives and mothers. We all know this. Furthermore, we know what Ukrainian and Russian women think about Ukrainian and Russian men and why they want to find a partner abroad (s. here: The difference between Ukrainian men and Western men: from Ukraine women’s view).

But what do we know about what Russian and Ukrainian men think about their women? Do they have the same opinion as the Western men? Are Russian and Ukrainian women the most beautiful and loving for them?

From my personal experience, I can say you, dear Gentlemen, that most of the Russian and Ukrainian men have a rather positive opinion about their women. They are very proud that Russian and Ukrainian women are the nicest and kindest women in this world. The only problem is that the men from Ukraine and Russia do not appreciate what they have and do not provide enough good for their women. But we already know about these things and I do not want to talk about this in the today’s post.

Today, I would like to present you two interesting opinions of a Ukrainian man and a Russian man. The Ukrainian man (his nickname on the forum is feosky) has worked in a Ukrainian marriage agency and knows almost “everything” about Russian and Ukrainian women who want to find a man abroad.

Here is the opinion of feosky:

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Long time ago I worked in a local marriage and dating agency in the Crimea, Ukraine. I will tell you what you need to know in order to understand Ukrainian and Russian woman for marriage . They are not like American woman. They are always waiting something from the man. Until they get married, they wish to have a surprise or gift every day. When a Ukrainian or Russian woman finds somebody, she wants to have all the money he has.

I know it is difficult to understand but maybe it is because of a not very good economical situation in Ukraine and Russia. Anyway, if a Ukrainian lady for marriage (for example) finds a man from a Western country, she will have excessive demands for him. The fact is that if she decides (or better to say she has a chance) to get married him, she must leave her country, learn a new language, and many other things which she need to do. So the woman looks for a man who really can give her much more then a man from Ukraine (especially financial support).

I have to tell you that I spend $200-300 for beautiful women in Ukraine. You can spend this money in one night, but you will not get sex from the woman. This money is not enough to get the woman.

If you buy her jewerly, the next step is that you need to buy flowers every 2-3 days. You then need to buy clothes for her that she wants to have. Western men looking for a woman from Ukraine come to this country and make all these things because they are happy to spend their time and money for beautiful Ukrainian girls (it is like a sex tour). I know this because I have seen this many times. The woman wishes to have more and more; and the man is ready to pay all her wishes (he gets sex as a service in return).

So if you would like to find a woman who is tender, honest and responsible and wants to be only with you, you have to look for her in the U.S.A. because here you just spend your time and your nerve. If you want to have a young and beautiful woman from Ukraine who will be ready to go with you to the U.S.A., you have to show her how you take care of her. So you must do all the things she wants. And you must take care of her and be always near her. If you are ready for this, you must try Ukrainian & Russian dating and you will see that it is works.

PS: sorry for mistakes

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I found this report on http://ruadventures.com/forum/. It attracted my attention immediately due to its overdone generalization of Russian and Ukrainian girls, namely: I do not like if some people are very quick to tar everyone with the same brush.

He claims that he lives in Ukraine and has gained a lot of experience with Ukrainian dating, therefore he knows many women from Ukraine who are really looking for a Western man for life. On the other hand, he knows many women who try just scamming the men. The fact is that, in his opinion, Ukrainian and Russian women want only to use (not only Western, but also Russian and Ukrainian) men.

Here is the opinion about Russian women from a Russian man’s point of view:

Krassavchick says:

*********************************************************************************************************I am sure that most of the Western men DO have enough information about Ukrainian dating and have gained a lot of experience with women from Ukraine and Russia. For that, I just hope that the majority of the Westerners hoping to find a wife in Ukraine do not think like these FSU men and can judge for themselves without any generalized agenda.

I have found a few interesting opinions about women from Ukraine and Russia on the Internet (from the Western men’s point of view):

Four simple tips to help your Ukrainian wife to integrate into the Western culture

Dear friends,

You have a found a special woman from Ukraine, you got married to her and your Ukrainian spouse arrived in your Western native country.  And what now?

From my experience, I can say you that most of the problems in a Ukrainian-Western relationship and marriage come after your woman moved to your country. Very usually, the woman feels lonely in her new country, she does not speak the language of her husband, and she has no friends with whom she could talk. I am a Ukrainian woman who lives in Germany about 9 years and I have to mention that the first two years in the new country are the most difficult for immigrants.

I have a lot of female friends from Ukraine and Russia here in Germany. From their personal experience, I can say you that Ukrainian and Russian women integrate very differently, and their integration into the new culture and society depends on various factors such as what their support structure is like, how many other Russians and Ukrainians are in their region, how helpful and tolerant their Western husbands are, their foreign language speaking ability, etc.

Here are my four tips that coach you how to help your wife from Ukraine to integrate into her new country:

Tip #1: show a lot of patience, understanding and tolerance

Nine years ago, I experienced a “culture shock”, namely the German culture was too different than the Ukrainian one. Furthermore, the fact that you are alone in your new homeland (no family, no friends) does not make you happy.

Western men must be aware that their Ukrainian wife could be unhappy and miss her country, family and friends desperately (possibly within the first few months). You should be very patient with your Ukrainian spouse during this “loneliness” period. If she feels that her partner loves her and cares of her, the first period passes quickly. The emotional and psychological support is a very important part of your wife’s integration.

Tip #2: support your wife’s communication with her Ukrainian family

Another tip to support your woman is to give her an opportunity to call her family and friends in Ukraine. In my opinion, it helps to integrate into the new Western culture and society because your wife does not feel lonely and depressed if she sufficiently communicates with the persons she loves. As you know, Ukrainian women have strong traditional family values; therefore the communication with the family in Ukraine is an important part of our culture.

Moreover, the family often plays a significant role in the life of your immigrant wife and perhaps still has the ability to impact her – that means for you that if the Ukrainian family knows that the woman is happy and feels comfortable in your native country they will motivate and encourage your Ukrainian spouse to integrate into the new Western life more quickly and learn first of all the language of the new motherland. Do not think that phone calls to Ukraine are too expensive! You can buy calling cards – so telephone rates through them are really low to Ukraine.

Tip #3: help your wife to become familiar with the language of your country

I am sure that learning the language of the new native country (English, German, French or Italian) is a very important step in an immigrant wife’s adjustment to the Western culture. From my experience, I can say that if you do not speak the language of your new homeland you will not integrate into the West. No language – no integration! I think it would help if you learn Russian or Ukrainian a little bit to show your wife that you are motivated to learn her language too.

Most of the Ukrainian women who arrive in the Western world understand that language knowledge gives them the feeling of comfort and the ability to express her feelings and thoughts. Therefore, I have experienced in Germany and Italy (I lived there three months four years ago) that women from Russia and Ukraine improve their foreign language competence within just a few months.

So you need to speak with her in your language, explain grammar rules and correct her if she makes any mistakes. In addition, I would recommend you enrolling your Ukrainian spouse in a language school for adults after she arrives in her new country. The woman will be able to make some new friends there who share the common experience of immigrating to the West and learning the foreign language. For example, I met Olga, one of my best friends, in my German class for immigrants. The woman is more comfortable adjusted to her new environment because she has sufficient communication with other people (not only with her partner).

One more thing… it is really helpful if your woman starts to learn the foreign language in Ukraine. In my case, I did study German for one year before I arrived in Germany. I did not experience this trouble: “throw me in the cold water and ask me to swim”. Of course, I had some difficulties with German but I was able to communicate and enjoy socializing with the German-speaking people.

So I would recommend you without doubt to pay for your woman to study your language in Ukraine before she immigrates (if she cannot pay by herself). Foreign language classes are not expensive in Ukraine: the English class in Ukraine costs about $100 per month. I am rather sure that it is an advisable investment of a few hundred dollars/euros in exchange for barrier-free and easy communication with your Ukrainian woman.

Tip #4: allow your wife to communicate with Russian and Ukrainian women

Some Western men suppose that the best way for their immigrant wife to integrate into the new culture is to be connected only to their native country people. But this idea is not correct. Of course, that is very important to communicate with the Westerners in order to integrate into the new country more quickly and effectively.

However, communication with Russian and Ukrainian women in the new country is very important, as well. If your immigrant spouse has several good friends with whom she is able to share her experience of immigrating, integrating and new life in the West, she will not miss her friends in Ukraine very strongly and feel not lonely in her new country anymore.

I would absolutely recommend you to allow her make some good Russian/Ukrainian-speaking friends in your area. So the woman communicates with somebody who is able to understand her from her Ukrainian/Russian cultural female perspective.

I hope my tips were helpful for you!

Three fundamental questions to ask yourself BEFORE you start out to search a woman from Ukraine

Dear friends,

You know that search for a special Ukrainian woman is worthwhile and life-defining. However, not every Western man will find a perfect Ukrainian lady for life. From my experience, I should say that most of the Western men looking for a woman from Ukraine or Russia are not aware of how the search could be complicated and especially expensive for them.

If you have no success with Ukrainian dating, you feel only disappointment and have perhaps financial problems, too. To avoid this I would like to ask you a possible checklist of questions whose answers might indicate your chances in Ukrainian and Russian dating.

Here important questions you should ask yourselves before starting the adventure of your life:

Question #1: Are you ready find a lot time for Internet recherché of dating services, users’ reviews, experiences and reading true dating stories? Are you ready to find a special lady from Ukraine, communicate with, fall in love with, and get engaged to? Are you ready to deal with intercultural differences in a Ukrainian-Western marriage?

The first question is very long (three questions in one). Sorry for this. But the very beginning of each adventure is always difficult. A lot of Western men start looking for Ukrainian women for marriage through different dating sites and companies without any idea about Ukrainian dating, Ukrainian women and their culture.

They do know what dating service is good for them, how to write messages to Ukrainian women and how to communicate with them. The guys do not know anything about the specific features of a cross-cultural relationship and how to deal with these differences in your Ukrainian-Western relationship. I would definitely recommend you to learn more about this matter before entering into the search for a Ukrainian wife.

Question #2: Are you ready and able to travel to meet your special Ukrainian lady in the next 6-12 months?

In other words, one meeting in person is much better and more effective than 1000 mails and phone calls. You should be aware of that once you have developed fixed correspondence with the lady the next natural step is going to Ukraine to meet the woman in person.  Furthermore, the woman expects from you too that you are making plans to go and visit her in her native town. You should not begin any correspondence with Ukrainian women until you’re sure if you’re ready for this step or not.

Question #3: Are you financially stable enough to support a Ukrainian or Russian spouse and possible children in the near future?

You should know that your immigrant wife needs a lot of time to integrate into her new country (learn how to help her to integrate here: “Four simple tips to help your Ukrainian wife to integrate into the Western culture“). She has to learn a new language, culture, and people. In other words, she won’t be able to start working in the next 3-12 months. Therefore, you should think about the level of safety and financial support you can offer your future wife. Guys, you needn’t be rich, just responsible and considerate.

Dear Gentlemen, I have got three basic but extremely important questions with serious implications on your likely success in finding your special woman from Ukraine. I am sure there should be much more. You must ask and seriously consider each of these questions.

That would be disastrous for you if you answer “no” to any of these questions after you have invested a lot of money, time or emotions in your dating search. As for me, this is much better to spend time answering these basic questions before you begin.

Ukrainian Dating Stories. Russian women stories

Dear friends,


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Uamatch.com gives you a chance to read through first hand accounts, build your russian dating stories with your russian women and romance trip reports of those who have taken advantage of the services offered by different Ukrainian and Russian dating sites and matchmaking companies. The postings and personal accounts found on the blog give you a sense of the romance, magic and love that is possible through Ukrainian and Russian online dating services.

Russian women reading through stories posted on Uamatch.com have access to personal, heartfelt accounts of what it is like to find love from afar and to have a success experience when it comes to leaving the matchmaking process up to someone who has a unique and almost inexplicable knack for pairing people together.


The russian dating stories, written by the couples themselves, talk of knowing the right match was made at first sight, getting through the awkward first few minutes of a date and how the dating process is not all that much different compared to traditional methods of meeting people. The inspirational stories of love and happiness give you hope and get you excited at the prospect of using the service.

Reviews of the dating service itself are candid and give potential clients the chance to read what others have experienced by using the service for their own needs. Postings about love at first sight, dreams coming true and the wonderment of falling in love are all common themes to the information found here.


From russian women success stories to trip reports chronicling romance; the information on the site is enough to get you ready and anxious to learn more about Ukrainian women and their culture and give the Ukrainian online dating a try.


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Do’s and Dont’s while dating in Ukraine (from a Westerner’s point of view)

Dear friends,

Today, I would like to present you Ukrainian dating tips from a Dutsch man who has gained a lot of experience with Ukrainian women for marriage. The good man is covering a great number of good common sense points in his advice. But I am sure that you can learn a lot from his tips. And you have much more chances to attract a woman in Ukraine if you follow e.g. only 50% of his Ukrainian dating tips and advice.

Enjoy!

TheoNL gives a few Ukrainian dating tips:

After being in Ukraine for 3 months in the last 4 months I have seen numerous western men meet Ukranian women. As people didn’t know I was a foreigner as well they didn’t change the way they behaved. Observing these men was fun at most times and shameful at other times. My ex-girlfriend would tell me what the girl was saying if the western man used a translation service and this could be funny as well.


So here are some general do’s and dont’s when your dating in Ukraine:

– get a haircut;

– take a shower;

– brush your teeth;

– shave your self (doesn’t apply to men with beards);

– use deodorant and aftershave;

– use a handkerchief or wet tissue when your sweating;

– wear something nice;

– polish your shoes;

– remember if you feel good, you will look good;

– bring a flower (not an even number, those are for the dead);

– don’t keep sitting if you were there first, instead help her sit down (be a gentleman);

– don’t drink too much (your trying to show your different then Ukrain men);

– don’t kiss your date on the lips;

– don’t trust the translator if you didn’t hire him/her yourself;

– understand that jokes are sometimes hard to translate;

– if you want to touch your date then start with her finger/hand or under arm and look how she responds;

– make subtile compliments;

– don’t look at other women;

– don’t speak loud (otherwise I or someone else might hear you);

– try to sit straight (it’s a chair, not a bed);

– listen to what she says even if you don’t understand a thing;

– do the same when your translator translates for you (some Ukraine women speak better english then you think, they are just scared to use it);

– try to read her body language;

– if she looks bored then change the subject;

– remember some dates are being paid to date western man (applies to dating through agencies);

– open doors for her (again be a gentleman);

– not all Ukraine women can walk fast on high heels, so adjust your pace;

– speak positive about Ukraine (forget the bad things you have seen);

– don’t show off;

– if you have questions then ask them politely (remember it’s not an interrogation).

Most do’s and dont’s also applies to the days before dating Ukranian women especially when your travelling with a group of men (your date might already be in town).

This is just a short list from observing western men in Kiev, Lviv, Odessa and Nikolaev and the comments/translations that I received from my ex-girlfriend.

The do’s and dont’s in this post are just the opinions of my Ukranian ex-girlfriend and myself.

Additonal tips are allways welcome.

(Source: http://www.russianmeetingplace.com/forums/showthread.php?t=32573)

The Most Romantic Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For Your Ukrainian Lady

Dear friends,

The pressure to be more romantic than usual is starting to build. Step up your romance game with a new twist on some golden oldies. Find a romantic gift that is personable and makes a statement about your feelings for your special Ukrainian lady. For beautiful women from Ukraine, romance is the knowledge that her man is thinking about her, and a personalized gift is going to tell her exactly what your feelings are.

Valentine Day Gift Ideas

My suggestions of the most romantic Valentine’s Day gift ideas for your Ukrainian lady:

Personalizing gifts show the one you love you appreciate who your Ukrainian lady is as a person, a lover and a friend.

Fashion jewelery
From my personal (Ukrainian woman’s) point of view, I could say that e.g. Chamilia Charms are sure to have your true love know exactly how you feel about her. Her personal style can shine when you choose the charms that express who she is, what she loves and what she means to you. Most Chamilia Charms are made from luxurious materials such as 14k gold, Swarovski crystals and Italian glass.

Flowers (the classic :))
Giving flowers to the special woman from Ukraine you love has been a tradition that outlasts any other romantic gesture on the books. What is the secret to the staying power of the gift flowers? Women love their smell, their delicate sensation, and they make us feel feminine. The combinations of flower species and their colors, shapes and smells will fit every personality. Add a new spin to the simple gift by signing her up for a bouquet a month program or finding a unique orchid.

Chocolate
If you are going to give her chocolate, than do it with flair and a touch of finesse. Find something she will not come across while grocery shopping. Dip strawberries in chocolate fondue and have them for desert. Look on the wrappers for words like decadent, gourmet or premium. Chocolate gifts need to taste like heaven in a wrapper, so do not let her down.

Jewelry, flowers and chocolate sound pretty obvious. Step it up with investing time. Take the time to find a gift with a personal touch. Set up a treasure hunt that has a silk and flower petal ending. Find a moment to make reservations, find a love poem and schedule flower delivery.

Take care and choose the fashio jewelry that will certainly mean something to her. I do not know a single woman from Ukraine who would turn down a box of high quality chocolates, but take it a step up and give her your time. Different online dating services like A Foreign Affair offers flower and gift delivery services not only in Russia and Ukraine, but also Colombia, Costa Rica, Peru, Philippines, and China

Looking for a woman of your dreams in Eastern Europe (the dating show on German TV)

Dear friends,

Today I would like to report on a TV show broadcast in Germany, namely: “Looking for a woman of your dreams in Eastern Europe”. In addition, the goal of my post is to find out why the three German men who are looking for their match in Romania, Ukraine and Russia have no success in their search for a big love. The show has been running for four weeks now, and of course, I watch “Looking for a woman of your dreams in Eastern Europe” with great interest.

To start off, here is the prehistory of the show. The three German men have decided to find the perfect woman for life in Eastern Europe. Their dating adventure begins in Ukraine and Russia because they are sure that the most beautiful women in the world live there. The Germans travel to St. Petersburg and Odessa and meet with many beautiful women  who look for husbands from the Western world.

Many Western men, who have gained experience in dating Ukrainian and Russian dating, know this. This story is not something extraordinary. The only thing is that the men get “dismissed” after each date. No Ukrainian or Russian woman for marriage wants to meet any of the men again after they had first date. “Why?” you want definitely to ask me.

In this article, I want to write about the dating mistakes only of one of the men, namely: Walther. He is the most interesting character in this whole story. The other men have made the same mistakes (but not so many as Walther had made).

Here is my answer to the questions why these German men failed to find a special woman in Eastern Europe and why they did not take advantage of the situation to turn things their way.

About Walther

The most memorable participant of the TV show is Walter. He is 50 years old, lives in Berlin and dreams to meet a beautiful and young woman in Ukraine or Russia. He does not look bad (I have to say: very fit for his age). Perhaps, you can consider his style is a bit old fashioned and conservative. However, Walther seems well-groomed.

He is very serious about his intentions to find a Russian or Ukrainian woman for marriage. He has been communicating with a few women through a dating site. During his romantic trip to Russia and Ukraine, Walther was attentive toward the ladies, he had interest in, and had bought many gifts for them.

Walther met ​​five nice women in St. Petersburg and Kiev. Unfortunately, he had no success in his search: no woman wanted to see him again after the first date. Of course, the man thinks the women are to blame that he cannot start a relationship with a lady from Russia and Ukraine. Who else?

Here are the mistakes Walther has made during his search for a match in Eastern Europe:

Too selfish
Walther spoke only about himself during the dates, namely: about his character, his life in Germany, his job, his bad luck with German women.

Lack ofknowledgeabout Ukrainian/Russian women and their culture
Walther thought that women in Russian and Ukraine are just like German women. Wrong! Ukrainian women expect more from men. That means that you as a man should be more attentive during the date and show that you are a gentleman (opening the door for the lady, buying flowers for her, and pouring champagne into her glass when it’s empty  – all of these considered the “must have” manners one should have in Ukraine and Russia).

Looking formuch younger Ukrainian and Russian women
I have already said that Walther is 50 years old. He wanted to find a 25-year-old girl from Ukraine and Russia. Of course, a lot of Ukrainian and Russian women at this age wanted no date with him because he was too old.

A woman’s appearance is the most important thing for his selection
Of course, every man wants to find a beautiful woman. Also Walther has his ideas how his perfect woman should look. In his opinion, the woman may wear only dresses (no jeans). The woman in jeans has no chance to win his heart. I find that ridiculous. As for me, the most important thing is that the woman looks elegant and stylish (it is possible wearing jeans, as well). Walther does not want to accept this and, if the woman wears no dress, he does not want to get to know her better. And that’s very superficial!

The behavior
Walther realizes that the women show no interest to develop any communication to him. Therefore, he wants to show his “strong” personality and becomes arrogant, derogatory, and impolite.  Walther shows his all disrespect to the women who do not like him – and because they have no feelings for him.

My advice is to remain polite always! It can happen that you have no feelings for the woman and I am pretty sure that you will be not happy if the woman gets arrogant and offensive just because you do not want to start a relationship with her.

Touching is allowed
Ukrainian and Russian women are shy. For most women, it is simply unpleasant when the man tries to kiss and touch the woman after 15 minutes of their date. The woman from Ukraine or Russia needs more time to get to know the Western man better. If the Ukrainian lady is ready to become intimate with you, she will give you a sign.

Conclusion: Thank God, I know that most men here in Germany and other Western countries are not as Walther. There are German men who respect Ukrainian women and show good manners like true gentlemen.

In my opinion, the reason for unsuccessful search for a match in Ukraine is that Western men have false expectations. They hope to meet the ideal woman there. But the reality is that although Ukrainian and Russian women are pretty, nice and feminine, they are not ideal. They have their strong and weak points as every human being (I know this sounds banal, but still). Many Western men who are looking for a woman from Ukraine or Russia often forget this simple thing.

The last thing I want to tell in the today’s post about is that some Western men still think that Ukrainian and Russian women are cheap products and they are not demading. These men are sure that it is enough just to come to Ukraine – and the woman is yours. Unfortunately for these men, this is not true. You must win the heart of the woman and behave as a gentleman.

I wish you good luck in dating Ukrainian women!